Do’s and Don’ts
Dementia is a complex condition affecting memory, thinking, and behavior, transforming not only the lives of those who suffer from it but also their loved ones and caregivers. Dementia care requires a unique blend of patience, understanding, and practical strategies. There is no one-size-fits-all guide, but learning the “Do’s” and “Don’ts” can make a profound difference in the quality of life for the affected person and their caregiver.
The Do’s in Dementia Care
Adopting a compassionate and strategic approach is fundamental. Here are key actions that DO benefit individuals with dementia:
DO Stay Calm and Patient: Frustration is common, but responding with anger only escalates the situation. Breathe deeply and remember that the behavior is part of the disease, not a personal choice.
DO Create a Structured Routine: Predictability reduces anxiety. Establish regular times for meals, hygiene, and activities.
DO Simplify Instructions: Use short, clear phrases. Give one instruction at a time and wait for them to complete it before giving the next.
DO Validate Their Feelings: If the person is distressed by something that isn’t real, focus on the emotion behind their words. “I see this worries you a lot” is more helpful than correcting them.
DO Encourage Independence: Allow them to do what they can for themselves, even if it takes longer. This preserves their dignity and self-esteem.
DO Seek Meaningful Activities: Engage them in simple tasks they enjoy, such as listening to music, looking at old photos, or helping with simple chores.
DO Take Care of Yourself: Dementia care is exhausting. Seek support groups, de-stress, and accept help.
The Don’ts in Dementia Care
Avoiding certain reactions and behaviors is as important as adopting positive ones. Here’s what NOT to do:
DON’T Argue or Constantly Correct: Trying to reason or correct a person with dementia about reality rarely works and only causes frustration for both.
DON’T Ask Complex Open-Ended Questions: Questions like “What do you want to eat?” can be overwhelming. Offer simple choices: “Do you want chicken or fish?”.
DON’T Underestimate Their Dignity: Although their abilities may decline, the person is still an individual with a history and feelings. Treat them with the respect they deserve.
DON’T Exclude Them from Family Activities: Adapt gatherings to include the person with dementia, even if their participation is limited. The feeling of belonging is crucial.
DON’T Make Assumptions: Every person with dementia is unique. What works for one may not work for another. Observe and adapt your approach.
DON’T Isolate the Patient or Yourself: Social connection is vital. Seek support for both the patient and yourself.
A Journey of Love and Adaptation
Dementia care is a challenging journey, but one filled with moments of connection and love. By applying these “Do’s” and “Don’ts,” you can create a more compassionate and effective environment for the person you care for, and protect your own well-being in the process.
Need support? At Healing Touch C & C, we offer resources and expert guidance for dementia care. Contact us today to explore how we can help you and your loved ones navigate this path with greater peace of mind and effectiveness.